How to Use the Law of Attraction in Loving Relationships

Law of Attraction and Love and Family. Whilst there are three areas in life that are important to people - health, wealth and love - it is usually the latter two that they are most focused on - trying to earn more money or finding the love of their life or increasing the love and prosperity for their loved ones. When it comes to love and family, how does the law of attraction fit in - can it help to create a loving relationship and even mend broken ones?

Of course it can! Everyone is sending out energy, emotional vibrations, at an unconscious level. And since like energies attract more of the same, if you begin to send out positive energy they will respond in the same way. After an argument, it doesn't matter who is the first to say sorry and begin doing good things for the other (sending out positive energy) for the other to soon have no choice but to do the same - they have no choice - they will not be able to help themselves.

If we look at the family situation we'll find that there are already bonds in play that can help to make the relationship better than ever before. We all know that it is not uncommon for families who share the same space to compete over the bathroom, for example, or for siblings to argue about computer games, TV - the usual domestics!

But, the bottom line is that there is usually an element of love in the family, even at the root of what seem impossible relationship problems. Where do you start? I've just said that there is always an element of love in the family, right? Then that is where you begin. For some, however, the disharmony may have been going on for some time and so the subconscious is sending out all the wrong emotional responses (because over time it's been conditioned to act that way). Ok, you're going to fix this problem and mend the relationship - but first, you have to be absolutely convinced that you want to do this, because the first person you have to start with, is YOU! You have to convince your own subconscious first, before you have a chance with anyone else.

Lip service is not enough - you really have to WANT things to change, right to the very emotional foundation of your being. You have to be 100% committed to change. First thing to do is to forget all the bad stuff - stop focusing on what they did that drove you up the wall, round the bend - however you want to put it - stop focusing on it right now. Why? The law of attraction! If you still harbor thoughts about the things they did to irritate you, what are you focusing on? Being irritated! Guess what? You are sending out a signal to your subconscious genie that reads "irritation" - the genie responds with "your wish is my command" and hey presto, you get more irritation!

LET GO! Let go of all the things that irritated you. You have to change the frequency of your emotional vibrations that your subconscious is sending out to the universe. You have to switch from negative to positive - it's as simple as that. Simply let go of all the focus on their faults - their habits that irritated you to such a degree that things got to where they are now. Focus on what they do (or used to do) that made you feel happy. Go look at some happy photos - even check out your wedding pictures (as long as they are happy ones!) Focus on the happy times you shared. Do you remember the things you used to do for them that made THEM happy? Go do them all over again. When you see them, think of the happy times you have spent with them - use your own reservoir of happy memories to change the signal your subconscious has been sending out. In no time, if you put yourself 100% into this, you will find yourself in a much happier relationship than you could have dreamed of.

Ok, let's take a look at trying to attract the love of your life INTO your life. The principle is much the same, only you haven't met them yet (or maybe you have but haven't noticed them). And remember, they are also looking for you! The important thing here is to be very specific when you give your subconscious genie your wish. What exactly are you looking for in a relationship?

As I have said, they are also looking for you, so in these terms, forget about political or social status for a moment - this is the love of your life, right? If you start putting limits and restricting choice, you are not really sending out the right signal! Be OPEN! Or you may miss the most wonderful relationship you could ever have dreamed of. Think of values and the type of relationship you want. Think of their personality and how they treat others - yes, think about their likes and dislikes - think about everything that you want in your future dream relationship. Then believe 100% that you are going to find this person.

If you find this difficult, just remind yourself that every day, millions of men and women around the world are creating a new life with the person of their dreams. You are no different from them - you have a right to be happy too. It happens every day. You can affirm this to yourself, each day, if it helps. Now comes the hard bit. You have to be patient. Your genie certainly does grant your wish, but, not always in the timescale that you are thinking in. Believe that it will happen, and it will. Just be patient and give it time.

Ok... you're not so patient. What happens? You date the next person that comes along, just to "fill in time" and hey, guess what, your life gets full of distractions that you would not even recognize the person of your dreams if they walked in the room. You are sending out all the wrong vibrations. Your focus is on your new date and not the love of your life. Remember, he or she is also looking for you! You are both looking for each other on a subconscious level - but yours is now sending out the wrong vibrations. You were so busy keeping yourself occupied with your new date, that you missed out on the opportunity to meet your dream lover, and they walked away without even a hello or goodbye because you didn't know they were there.

Once you set a goal, be patient. Keep faith in your subconscious genie that they will deliver. Keep those positive vibrations working and the person of your dreams is likely to find you when you least expect it! Stay focused on your dreams - the law of attraction will bring them to you!

In the early 1900s several books were written about the law of attraction. Recently, a film was made about it called "The Secret". Some of the lessons from the early books were lost - now they have surfaced again. In December 2009, myself and others will make these lessons available. To find out more, simply send an email to timeless_secrets@makeadream.info and I will tell you how they can change your world.

Graham Nicholls
http://www.makeadream.info/50success.html

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Lasting Loving Relationships - Can You Really Have One Or Should You Settle For Less?

Okay Boys! You can get all the paid for or free flirting advice you can stomach, but ya better be careful about what you go after. We all know that men and women are different but if you ask a woman she will tell you she has men figured out. There are very few men that will say the same about women. Flirting and dating is all well and good but every time you start a conversation with a woman you are starting a relationship. It will be up to you where the relationship goes from there.

There have been scientific studies done about why a person does what they do, and they have found answers about how relationships work too. What attracts a certain type of man or woman for one person can be totally different from one person to the next.

What makes a person stay in an unfulfilling relationship or an abusive one?

Unfortunately, children have no say in these matters between partners and no control over how they must suffer through their parent's choices. If you find yourself in a relationship with a single parent please, act responsibly. It does not matter how dysfunctional the parent is, they can do no wrong in the eyes of their children. If you find yourself involved with a single parent and you know the relationship will not be long term be careful of the bond you create with the children..

As an adult you do have choices and you might need to take a step back and a hard look at what is happening in your life. It is possible to decide whether a date is worth more than one night during the first conversation, you just need to ask the right questions and let her do a little talking.

According to the results of various studies there are a few different types of women, fortunately for you, they are easy to separate quickly. Believe me there are some women you do not want to get involved with at any cost no matter how beautiful they are.

Men and women get into a relationship and settle for less than they need. They are in a rush to be married and think they can work through things, live without others or hope to be able to change their partner. These types of relationships usually end in heartache for someone involved.

If you are truly looking for a long lasting loving relationship, you need to recognize it when it slaps you in the face. Know what you want and do not be intimidated by an overpowering whining woman! Do not tell her what she wants to hear just to keep her from crying or throwing a tantrum, be honest and say what you feel.

Prioritize the things you must get from your relationship and the things that you can't tolerate. You may think you can be happy living with some things you can't tolerate or doing without the things you need but you will quickly discover that is not true.

An online dating profile should spark interest and a little mystery that builds relationships. Do you know how to keep a relationship growing after the first date? There is no magic answer but, you can read more of our findings about flirting, dating and relationships at: http://411flirt.com. All of our articles are free for reprinting on your website provided all links and the resource box remain intact.

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Long Lasting Love Relationships

Dating and establishing love relationships can be compared to choosing a vehicle. You pick out the make, model, year, color and features that you believe are best for you. After driving your vehicle for a couple of months, you realize that perhaps you should have purchased a larger car, or that maybe the leather seats would have been better, or on hot sunny days, the sunroof would have been nice. However, it is now too late so you choose to keep your car and accept the decision you made. It is the same for a marriage or couple relationship. Not everything will be perfect and there will be major obstacles to overcome but you have made your decision and now you choose to make it work no matter which marriage troubles you are experiencing.

Dating and marriage is different than it was thirty years ago. Today, more than 50% of all marriages fail for one reason or another. Just thinking about that makes "commitments" and marriage vows seem scary. It seems that when relationships are faced with challenges, people quit trying. Dating is more like a marathon, trying to date as many people as possible, instead of taking time to get to know someone on a deeper level. For married couples, divorce is not biased. Whether married for thirty years or eight months, the outcome can be the same.

The fact is that relationships, whether dating or married, are hard. Things do not always go perfectly, fighting does occur, and it takes a 100% commitment from both parties to make it a success. Often when people break off a relationship, they feel as though something is missing. The "spark" has gone, leaving one or both people feeling inadequate and unfulfilled.

However, even though the odds are not very good, it has been proven by many people that healthy and long-lasting relationships are definitely possible. Look at Paul Newman and Joanne Woodard, Danny Devito and Rhea Perlman, or Nancy and Ronald Regan. What secrets do and did they possess? The answer is: work hard at the relationship. They made a decision of choosing to love their mate rather than relying on the "warm and fuzzy" feelings, which everyone knows will fade. By making love a choice, you are making a decision that even in the bad times, you stick it out.

There are hundreds of things you can do to build, strengthen, and enhance your relationship. You can find lots of relationship self help resources online. Remember, little steps taken every day will add up to big successes.

Terje Brooks Ellingsen is a writer and internet publisher. He runs the website 1st-Self_Improvement.net. Terje is a Sociologist who enjoys contributing to the personal growth and happiness of others. He tries to accomplish this by writing about personal development issues from his own experience and knowledge. For example, self help resources and how to enhance your relationship.

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Love Relationships and Secret Numbers

As love cries out to quench our soul,
To fill our heart and make us whole,
Within our names the secret slumbers.
Behold! The answer lies within our numbers!

Love. Ah, love! How profound. How grand. How majestic and magnetic. Arguably, nothing in the history of man has captivated him more than love. It is the elixir that quenches both heart, mind and soul, and yet its secrets remain hidden, or do they?

With the rise of broken marriages, broken homes, unhappy children separated from the loving embrace of both a mother and father, as well as an endless stream of individuals experiencing ephemeral and empty relationships, it is all too apparent that the process of love and the choosing of a life partner need overhauling. There is far too much pain, too many tears, too much heartache and heartbreak to maintain the current direction of generating fulfilling love matches. The method for creating relationships needs to be revolutionized and that revolution is centered, as remarkably as it may seem, in the birth names and birth dates of each of us.

Numbers rule the universe said the famed mathematician and scientist Pythagoras. Because numbers rule the universe, they rule everything in it including love and relationships. The key numbers of each individual's name and birth date contain the secrets to love for the individual. When those numbers are matched correctly to another person's numbers, a strong, fulfilling, and enduring relationship can be achieved. Divorces will be fewer, as will broken homes, broken relationships, broken hearts, heartbroken children and broken lives.

For example, let's say that person 'A' has a 5 Lifepath. The Lifepath is determined from the birthdate and can be likened to the script of a person's life. Now we'll assume that person 'B' has a 4 Lifepath. If these two people attempted to create a relationship, would each of them find fulfillment through the other's life script and thereby enhance the possibility of them having a meaningful relationship? The answer is probably not. The numbers 4 and 5 are diametrically opposed. The 4 is conventional; the 5 is unconventional. The 4 loves stability; the 5 loves motion. The 4 is practical; the 5 is adventurous. The 4 doesn't like change; the 5 loves change. See the problem?

Now let's assume that the 4 and 5 didn't govern their Lifepaths but their Expressions. The Expression is derived from a person's name and describes the individual as a whole. With one person being a 4 and the other person being a 5, the chances of them finding harmony together are practically nil. Again, the same problem arises except the Expression is the person while the Lifepath is the script of the person's life. Thus, the Expression carries greater weight. The 4 versus 5 conflict is thus intensified when it's in the Expressions [the names] rather than the Lifepaths [the birth dates] of the people involved. This combination would not bode well for a happy couple nor a fulfilling relationship. The 4 would hold the 5 back, smothering his adventurous nature, while the 5's desire to move, change and experience life would cause the root-loving 4 a great deal of stress.

Although there are many factors in a numerology chart that determine the compatibility of a relationship, this simple example of the 4 versus 5 illustrates that if these two people were to form a committed bond, their Lifepaths and/or Expressions would potentially create tension because of the inherent opposition and confliction between the 4 and 5. It is therefore important that people look beyond the superficial attributes of a potential partner such as wealth, power, possessions, celebrity and looks to the deeper energies comprising their lives and destinies as determined from the numbers in their names and birth dates.

Summary Notes
1. Numbers rule the universe.
2. Our personal numbers are contained within our birth name and birth date.
3. Each of our numbers contains the secrets to love.
4. Loving relationships are created when the key numbers of two individuals match harmoniously.

~finis
Copyright Richard Andrew King
All rights reserved.

Richard Andrew King, whose website is http://richardking.net is a numerologist, martial artist, author and public speaker residing in Southern California. For knowledge regarding love, attraction and relationships, read The 5 Minute Lover: Discovering the Secrets of Your Life, Loves and Relationships in 5 Minutes or learn love's secrets at http://www.yourlovenumbers.com. Other works by King include The King's Book of Numerology, Volume I: Foundations & Fundamentals; The King's Book of Numerology II: Forecasting - Part I; 99 Poems of the Spirit; Messages from the Masters - Timeless Truths for Spiritual Seekers; Blueprint of a Princess: Diana Frances Spencer - Queen of Hearts; The Black Belt Book of Life: Secrets of a Martial Arts Master; The Age of the Female - Volumes I and II. A complete listing of King's works including his books, audio books, home study courses and CDs is available on his website and at Amazon.com. King is available for speaking engagements, workshops and personal appearances.

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Now Revealed! Where Comic Book Fans Like Me Can Find Love and Dates

I want your ugly, I want your disease / I want your everything as long as it's free / I want your love / Love, love, love, I want your love - Lady Gaga, Bad Romance lyrics

I refuse to call myself a nerd, dork, or any other possibly self-deflating term. But, I have always loved comic books and super heroes, so let me use that as a way to open this article about dating and finding love. Comic book fans can find love and happiness, too.

Yes, we all know it can be tough finding a date and love match. I remember how it was back before I met my wife. You hear talk about love and dating and get tired of hearing it. It's always love, love, love. And not everyone finds someone as easily as Clark Kent found Lois Lane. (And even then it took them decades to tie the knot.). But, I am confident with my experience and advice that you can find dates and love.

I met my wife in college by taking the initiative and asking her out. That is one piece to the love puzzle, stepping out of your comfort zone. Another piece is being on the lookout. Do not leave everything up to destiny when it comes to love. You have to take the love bull by the horns and make him work for you. Finding love and a quality relationship starts by putting out the effort and looking. While the tight and toned athletes and those with much money have women chasing them, you need to look if you are among the 90 percent of other guys.

Furthermore, while it would be amazing and sexy to find love and a relationship at a comic book store (I'm being serious!), that likely won't happen. Not every woman appreciates super heroes and the world of four color panels like my wife. That said, I believe you will not find love and a quality relationship at the bar. So, where to start?

I suggest trying online dating sites to find love. They are all over the Internet now like love kiosks. Some dating sites like SinglesNet and PlentyofFish are even free. I have known many people who use the Internet to find love and dates. It can work. Let me run some numbers by you.


One in 5 singles have dated someone they met on a dating site, according to datingsitesreviews.com. Finding a match online is not uncommon these days. It is perfectly acceptable to find love and a date online.
Also, according to datingsitesreviews.com, married couples who met online have an average courtship period of 18.5 months. Married couples who met offline have a courtship period that lasts on average 42 months. So, dating online is a faster way to find your perfect match and love.

If you are looking for love, take a small step out of your comfort zone and try an online dating site. Many sites are simple to use and will not even take much time. For example, I know at SinglesNet, you can search for matches by only putting in your Zip code and telling the Web site if you are looking for a man or woman. The database then brings up love matches in your area. You can become one of those lucky people who one day say, "I love Love."

And face it, who does not love Love. Love is a concept and feeling we all need in our lives. I am confident if you take a chance and try searching an online site for a date, you will find some good ones. Then, maybe next time you hear of someone bragging about his or her spouse, you won't think, "Love, love, love, bah humbug."

One final note, when you do meet your love match, move confidently. The article Attracting Women With Body Language - Using Your Body To Attract Girls 101 by Dean James states moving confidently means "...not fidgeting, or shaking, just because you see the girl you like, or your dream girl sits beside you. A lot of females get turned off when they see men who are nervous, or don't have enough confidence."

Fellow fanboys, love and happiness await. And who knows, maybe every guy has a Lois Lane, Shiera Hall, or Mary Jane Watson out there. Maybe it just takes a little work to find her.

Scott Faubion offers dating advice at http://www.squidoo.com/relationship-tips-and-tricks.

Scott is also an owner of Halloween Hill, an online business that provides Halloween props to haunted house owners and home haunters at http://www.halloween-hill-props.com.

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